There’s no greater experience than being in love. You’re excited to be around a person who gives you feelings you can’t put into words. Everything else in your life could be going wrong, but when you’re with them, all those problems seem to melt away. You are there, in the moment, living what feels like another existence.
In any relationship, there comes a wall. At some point, the feeling of the honeymoon phase fades away, and the real work in your relationship begins. You still have those feelings, but they don’t seem as strong. The passion is there, but it flickers a bit.
Left unchecked, you and/or your partner can begin to lose interest in the relationship. It doesn’t take much before you’re wondering if the passion you once had even existed at all. Here are six warning signs your partner is losing interest – and what, if anything, you can do to win them back.
1. Sex Becomes A Chore
Sex is one of the ways we can manifest our feelings in a physical way. Great sex makes for a happier life. You don’t necessarily have to have sex every day, but it should be regular. It should be a time when the two of you tune out the world and give in to the experience. If your partner doesn’t treat your sex life, in the same way, warning bells should go off in your mind. For great long-term relationship sex, you could try spicing things up a bit. Flirt with them, experiment, but let them know you want to rock their world.
2. They Regularly Pick Fights With You
Does it feel like you’re always doing something wrong? It might not be you – it might be your partner picking little fights because they’re pulling away. Relationship fights may be a sign of someone trying to distance themselves. If that’s the case, all you can do is try. Listen to what they’re attempting to say beyond the yelling. Don’t be their punching bag, and never accept physical abuse.
3. They Stop Actively Pursuing You
Just because you’ve been with someone for a while, it doesn’t mean it’s time to break up. You should never stop pursuing your partner through things like a date night and physical affection beyond the bedroom. If your partner doesn’t hug, kiss and compliment you, take notice. Kiss them – show them you want them. If they don’t respond after repeated tries, you have a decision to make.
4. They Talk About Someone Else A Little Too Much
It’s natural for each of us to interact with other people and experience a connection. That relationship can grow into something more or stay in healthy boundaries. If your partner is talking about someone else a little too much – you have a sense of what “too much” is – it’s a sign of them losing interest. If it bothers you, don’t hold it all inside of you. Say something to your partner. Don’t get into a shouting match – have an adult conversation.
5. They Don’t Include You In Their Life And Plans
If you find yourself surprised at your partner’s plans, this can be a sign. Your partner will do things without you, but you should – at the very least – be aware of what’s going on in their life. If they go out of their way to not include you, speak up. Don’t wait until everything they do doesn’t involve you.
6. You Can Feel The Distance Growing Wider
I think it’s safe to say that each of us has intuition. We can feel whether or not we’re close to our partner. If you feel the distance, and then that distance gets wider, don’t stay quiet. Fight for your relationship. Have a difficult conversation with your partner. Tell them you love them and want to be closer. Do the best you can and hope they meet you halfway.
The truth is that some relationships can’t be saved. I hate to say that, but it’s true. You’re the only one who knows your partner, so you have to think long and hard. You have to get honest about the possibilities. If there’s a chance to win back what you once had – take it.
Despite the stats, your love and relationship can withstand the test of time and any struggles. You feel for that person for a reason, sometimes it helps to walk down memory lane and recapture those feelings. Relationships are hard work, but it’s worth it to be with that special person who just does it for you. Look for the warning signs, get honest, and take the necessary next steps.